We are different; we are the same. While every woman must travel her own unique POP journey, and the range of emotions we go through individually are as distinct as the color of our eyes; at some point in time most POP sisters experience pretty much the same ride through a variety of feelings. The most difficult emotion to achieve regarding pelvic organ prolapse is acceptance.
We make ourselves crazy with an endless list of questions. How did POP happen? Why is POP happening to me? Did I do something to cause POP? Why wasn’t I warned about POP ahead of the curve? What should I do to fix my POP? Will my POP ever be cured? Can others tell I have POP? The destructive self-doubt keeps women up at night and haunts their days, especially immediately following diagnosis, because most women have no knowledge of the condition prior to that point.
See yourself. Really see yourself. I’m not talking get the mirror out and take a look at your vagina to analyze what degree of POP impact you are experiencing today (although that is a good tool for women early in the learning curve). I’m talking about look inside; what do we really need to be happy, to be whole? Do we need to have a perfect body? Not even close….
When going through the bazillion emotions women experience when diagnosed with POP, it’s helpful to share your anxiety and fear with other women experiencing POP. Women newly diagnosed, women prepping for surgery, women in the post-surgical heal curve, women who have no interest in surgery figuring out what tools work best for their bodies. Embrace your POP sisters with your whole heart, the greatest sign of acknowledgment and appreciation. The bravery of letting ourselves be seen and connecting with other women experiencing POP breaks down our vulnerability.
Step away from how you think and feel you must live your life; give yourself permission to be structured and free, quiet and rowdy, fragile and strong, happy and sad, excited and devastated. Know that positive emotions and patience influence the way we think as well as the way we feel. Are we upset to be diagnosed with a condition that has considerable physical, emotional, social, and sexual impact? Absolutely. Should we allow ourselves to experience those emotions? Absolutely. But should we let POP define us? Never.
Accept pelvic organ prolapse as a bump in the road-certainly a significant bump, but one that you can climb over with the strength and determination that defines most women today. Recognize and celebrate everything bright and beautiful about yourself with the simplicity and sincerity we embrace as young children. Acceptance leads to healing.